Say what YOU mean, mean what YOU say... if you don't, who will? Why make people guess? What if they guess wrong? Communication is difficult enough as it is without having to try to "read" someone to "figure out" what they MEAN by what they are saying. It helps when people just say what they mean, and mean what they say.
So, this is the basis for a book that I am writing... I think that it would do people good to empower themselves enough to do this! say what you mean! what YOU have to say, and what you think, is valid, is ok. By saying what you mean, you will also empower others to mean what they say - when they don't, call them on it. Empower them, too...
I fail to understand why some people are so put off by a "yes/no" question, because they want to say no but are too worried about the inquirer's reaction that they simply say nothing. SAY NO. grow a pair, and say no. say what you mean.
How am I supposed to know if you don't say no? JUST SAY NO.
It can be incredibly difficult trying to guess what someone is thinking, unless perhaps you have a clue or two. But, isn't it just so much easier if they just tell you? efficient, effective, we can all get on with other things... When it comes down to it, "say what you mean, mean what you say" = be honest with yourself and others.
The same principle holds true for someone staying in a loveless relationship simply to 'avoid hurting the other person's feelings.' Isn't it going to hurt MORE when they find out that not only are you not in love with them anymore, but you've been PRETENDING!?! Especially if somewhere along the way children become involved. Grow a pair and break it off. the bandaid comes off with less pain if you do it quickly!
That is all... ;)
So, this is the basis for a book that I am writing... I think that it would do people good to empower themselves enough to do this! say what you mean! what YOU have to say, and what you think, is valid, is ok. By saying what you mean, you will also empower others to mean what they say - when they don't, call them on it. Empower them, too...
I fail to understand why some people are so put off by a "yes/no" question, because they want to say no but are too worried about the inquirer's reaction that they simply say nothing. SAY NO. grow a pair, and say no. say what you mean.
How am I supposed to know if you don't say no? JUST SAY NO.
It can be incredibly difficult trying to guess what someone is thinking, unless perhaps you have a clue or two. But, isn't it just so much easier if they just tell you? efficient, effective, we can all get on with other things... When it comes down to it, "say what you mean, mean what you say" = be honest with yourself and others.
The same principle holds true for someone staying in a loveless relationship simply to 'avoid hurting the other person's feelings.' Isn't it going to hurt MORE when they find out that not only are you not in love with them anymore, but you've been PRETENDING!?! Especially if somewhere along the way children become involved. Grow a pair and break it off. the bandaid comes off with less pain if you do it quickly!
That is all... ;)
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